As much as I would love
everybody to think that I am this super happy girl that never gets discouraged or angry or upset, I would be telling one big FAT lie. The truth is, regardless of how much we try to avoid it, bad days come and when they do, they are most likely unexpected and a pain in the booty. Unfortunately, I have recently experienced one of these days and have realized a couple of things that may change your mind on how you view your bad days. Hey, they might even make you smile.
It’s All About Perspective: A lot of the times when we are having a bad day or something goes wrong, we completely become OBSESSED with the situation and we let this bad thing that happened not only ruin just part of our days but the whole thing! In reality, if we would’ve overreacted a lot less and channeled all that energy focusing on the negative and attempted to try and try to find some positive in the situation, our entire day probably wouldn’t have been so horrible. Although this isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do (trust me, I’m the biggest drama queen of the south, ask my mama) it is the most productive way to become more in control of your happiness. No situation or person should ever take away your happiness. That, my blessed, brilliant, beauties, belongs to you. Learn to take control of that.
The World is a Bigger Place: Now, I am not in anyway degrading y’alls bad days because I am pretty sure a lot of my blessed, brilliant, beauties can testify to some days that were really just downright horrible. However, sometimes when I’m having a bad day I try to think about all of the things in my life that are going right. Sometimes I just think about the morningtime and how just like the sun, God woke me up. Even though that may seem minor, not everybody did wake up that morning and I should be blessed that I did. I try took look at the world as more than just a place that I personally live in. Although I do believe in making the world yours, to me, it’s important to realize that we aren’t the only ones living in it. Sometimes just reminding myself that I am extremely blessed even when I feel like I’m not helps me get through those bad days.
Stop Trying To Be Perfect: In a world full of filters and photo editing apps, it can be easy to fall into this tornado of perfectionism. However, at the end of the day, unless your last name is Christ and first name is Jesus, perfection isn’t exactly an entity you can embody. Personally, a lot of my frustrations come from my obsession with perfection. There are times where I have to sit myself down and remind myself that I’m not perfect and that I am ALLOWED to mess up sometimes. Sometimes it’s going to rain in the middle of the day after I straightened my hair that morning and you know what, why would I waste my energy, time, and blood pressure on something that in the end I can’t control. Everyday isn’t going to be a perfect day, every photo won’t have the perfect lighting, every essay won’t have the perfect grammar, and that’s okay. The more I allow myself to make mistakes and mess up, the less stress I feel to live up to an impossible expectation of being perfect. I know I’m not perfect and I am very okay with that.
So the next time you are having a bad day, try to remember these three things so you as a blessed, brilliant, beauty can optimize your days that God has given you on this earth and really take control of your happiness while realizing that life isn’t perfect and neither are you. But, that is what makes life exciting, adventurous, and yours. Always remember you are blessed, brilliant, and beautiful and smile on your bad days.
“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.”